Recently, a women, VP of a large MNC
in Bangalore claimed there is no glass ceiling and that gender stereotypes
don’t exist. She said how she got it all easy, without any struggle as a woman.
I have this to say here, “Well, lady, you got plain lucky perhaps. Gender Stereotypes
do exist and they exist everywhere. It’s just that you haven’t had the time to
spot it yet – which may also mean it hasn’t happened to you yet.”
Slotting
When a man succeeds, he is awesome.
When a woman succeeds, it’s because she was nice to her boss. Her skills end up
in gutter. Slotting women without really understanding their work or even
attempting to do so is another trend seen more often in the women-suppressed
world – sometimes women suppress themselves and call it a ‘wise choice’.
Sometimes, others (both men and women) end up suppressing other women. Take a
look at this 1 minute
video which tells a lot!
Judgement
Disposals
I once worked with a colleague who
was very pretty and a good natured girl. Since she was pretty, a majority of
colleagues were looking excuses to talk to her, since she worked for a
different department. For the soft toned girl she was, she politely declined
coffee meet-ups, dinner catch-ups and handled this with utmost sensitivity and
professionalism. Some of the guys who didn’t like her response to their
requests ended up calling her a slut and that she had lots of boyfriends. When
did “being pretty” mean putting up a sign board on the face reading, “I am
available for everyone to talk to”. She is entitled to live the life she wants,
but people around her have to get judgmental or they lose their sleep. This is
just one specific case. I can go on and on about many such in organizational
contexts.
People are making judgments about
women all the time. If a guy looks sad because India lost a cricket match, it’s
completely believable. If a girl looks sad, she must have had a fight with her
mother-in-law. Why judge women? Why throw pre-conceived notions about women in
the air with callous insensitivity?
We as a society must stop becoming
judgmental about people in general if we are willing to lead the way to a
better society.
Hey
Girl, You Have Always Rocked!
You are already an entrepreneur –
How on earth did you manage to pull yourself up to the challenges life offered
and managed to get till here?
Don’t wear a special badge on your
shoulder and expect fair treatment because you are a woman.
Pick the battles which are worth fighting
for
If you choose to fight, choose to
win
Challenge the system, not the people–
it doesn’t work that way
Don’t lean in at all times.
Sometimes, step back. Other times, take a leap of faith. Whatever the situation,
believe in yourself
Become the benchmark of
professionalism irrespective of where you work or how people treat you
Don’t allow your tolerance to be
mistaken for cowardice or playing safe
Have a Mentor who’s been there, done
that – Start from your mom, perhaps
Be Your Own Boss
Have Big Heady Audacious Goals
Make sure people take you seriously
Hierarchy has nothing to do with
skill. Keep Upskilling yourself
Don’t focus on competition, focus on
solving problems and working towards solutions
Ask yourself, “Why do I work? For
brownie points? To fulfill my passion?”
Be who you are and say what you
feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind ~ Dr.
Seuss
People have
to get rid of the disability of the mind, of having pre-conceived notions about
the world
Lakshmi
Pratury
Celebrate Womanhood!
Regards,
Parimala Hariprasad
its a so nice blog.
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Parimala,
ReplyDeleteGood to read all the three parts of this blog series.
Each and every word is so very true and the final paragraph "Hey Girl, You Have Always Rocked!" is very inspiring.
Keep blogging....
Thanks,
Ananda Jothi Balakrishnan